Tuesday, 11 April 2017

Passing Off Harrasment As Discipline!!! #NaijaFactor

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At some point this madness has got to stop.
This harassment cloaked in discipline!
I'm back again to vent. Maybe I should change the name of this blog of mine to "NoLimit's Vent Corner" lol.
Great idea I just may do that.
Anyways I read about the FRSC(Federal Road Safety Corp) Commander who decided to take it upon himself to check the nails and hair of the staff and then proceeded to cut the hair of the female staff whose hair style wasn't at par with the FRSC standard.( Even typing this crap stinks to me.)
It brought back memories of how a teacher tried to do same to me in one of the military schools many moons ago.
On that faithful day I had come to school with my hair short, all blown out and well styled. I was truly feeling myself...didn't realise this female teacher wasn't particularly pleased with it.
She then called me to the staff room, requested for a scissors and then proceeded to cut my hair or should I say try. Because I went totally crazy. I mean stark raving bonkers on her!
Here I was, an almost 16 year old girl with this very much older woman who felt the need to exert her authority over me by cutting my hair in public glare.
Who made her my barber biko? How? From where to where? These were the thoughts running through my mind when I blatantly refused to allow this happen.
I was ready to die there! I was told I would be suspended if I didn't cooperate! Cooperate-fire. I was sent home and told to bring my parent!
Thankfully I wasn't and my hair was left alone.
Brings me back to present day, 100 Centuries later(#iKid) and we're still on this level of stupidity.
Should that be Commander Kumapayi's priority? Is that why he was given the position?
This is how they make mountains out of molehills and focus on what is completely and utterly irrelevant and useless.
I think it is about time we got our priorities straight in my beloved Naija.
I really want to say more but it's bedtime and I gotta sleep; I have an early day tomorrow.
But see below for link to the stupid gist:

https://guardian.ng/news/discipline-or-molestation-frsc-commander-cuts-female-staff-hair/?F

Monday, 2 January 2017

Crossover Yawa

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2016 was a good year. Dasall.
And I had to suck it in and wear my big girl pants and face my numerous fears... turns out they were all mirages! Funny how life works sometimes...okay maybe not funny lol.
Straight to my gist. My friend's boyfriend who in my opinion is a mistake not because he's a bad person but because he projects his worst fears on her and is limiting in nature... from what I understand about this thing called marriage, whatever you see right now will be magnified by 100 in marriage. The married folks can confirm that if they choose to.
Anyways, she tells me on new year day that her boyfriend is really upset with me, he felt disrespected because of what I said or how I said it, he has vowed not to ever talk to me again etc.
My face went blank... I was like shuo🙄🙄🙄, on top wetin exactly? what did I say that was bigger than mouth? Then I faced my friend and asked her directly if she thought I was actually disrespectful to him, she said she knows I wasn't and she's been trying to explain that to him but he wouldn't listen.
Now for those that don't know me, I am boisterous, outspoken, extremely direct and very full on!
I guess you can say I can threaten your confidence if you hardly have any. Oh let's not forget that when I'm passionate about something; a course or whatever, I can be downright aggressive(not exactly super-cool) but that is who I am and I own it like a bawse.
The truth is in my world, the only reason he exists(in my world) is because of my friend...at the end of the day, she's made her choice my opinion about him can easily be shoved where the sun don't shine!!!
So what did I do? I sent him a message through her letting him know that I will never knowingly disrespect him and I apologised(surprise!😳) for offending him.
I am growing and I know it. Now I'm off to learn to tone down my aggression😂😂😂!!!
Happy New Year.



Monday, 15 August 2016

Get Out Of That Funk; Destroy The Source

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The other day I seasoned chicken and forgot to put it in the fridge... it is summer here so it doesn't take too long for perishable food to turn bad. Luckily I discovered on time and I quickly boiled and grilled it.
But I noticed there were flies all over the place and I just couldn't fathom why or what caused it seeing that I've already cooked the chicken.
I suddenly looked in the corner of the table top and found the bowl I used to season the chicken...that was the culprit. Still don't know how I missed it but right after washing this off, the flies probably got bored and left (party is over flies!)
Then it occurred to me that this is how life plays out, we fire-fight sometimes trying to solve little problems or even big problems that keeps popping up like boils in unwanted regions.
If we deal with the root cause of this issue(s)... the source of this problem(s)... then just maybe we will be able to win the war and not just a battle.
It is time to enquire and discover the source of that problem, don't go about in circle round a mountain that ought to really be destroyed to pave the way for your new beginning.
It could be anything at all that consistently or constantly rears its ugly head when it is not wanted. Bad habits, depression name it. 
There's always a trigger for flies to invade so my lovelies attack the source of that fly, destroy it and see beautiful changes in your life.

Selah.


            

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

When Motivation Dies...What To Do When You're Losing Your Motivation.

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Before I tell you about the quote that inspired this post, I just want to share that I've been around this loss of motivation mountain many times over and I heard this quote and it resonated with me in ways even I myself couldn't imagine.
Now here's the thing, it isn't enough to be talented, it is important to actually develop your skill (whatever that is) and this is done mostly via, practice, training and discipline.
When motivation dies...Let discipline take over...yes that was quote I read and it is so apt I could write a whole book on that(but I won't..yet).
Sometimes it feels like there's no reason to complete that project, that task you've set for yourself but you need to be disciplined enough to complete it.
Discipline is not a switch to put on or off although with time, it may become so.
Discipline builds up as a result of deliberate and consistent actions taken over a course of time.
Don't let anybody fool you, working smart is good but working hard is important. People hardly tell you how hard they worked to achieve their goals, some gloss over it, some make it sound like it's a picnic. It may be and it may not be but you need to be determined in your heart that regardless of how hard or easy it is, you will remain consistent and focused.
And so on days like this when I'm not exactly motivated to do what I really ought to be doing...I let discipline take over and guess what...it works!!!
Doesn't matter if I'm moving via motivation or discipline what matters is I'm moving and the task has been accomplished.


           

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Fela Durotoye Prays For Nigeria - Join in

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I'm calling all lovers of Nigeria to please join this amazing initiative that is catching on like wild fire.
It is a prayer chain for Nigeria.

Background:
I was busy minding my business and job hunting as I'm currently between jobs(that's another blogpost, will keep you updated on that) when I got a notification from Periscope that Fela Durotoye has logged on. 
I wasn't even following him on Periscope at that point in time, but I was too curious to ignore the notification (I wonder why I got the notification). Anyways my curiosity got the better part of me and I decided to join the 'scope. 
In the 'scope, he said that God told him to pray for Nigeria for 49days ie 7weeks at every watch hour... watch-hour: apparently it is believed that watch hours are times the heavens open to earth ie 12midnight,3a.m, 6a.m.9a.m,12noon,3p.m and 9p.m by the way I'm not hear to debate or argue with you about the truth in that or not. All I know is, I believe in this particular initiative and I believe doors will open to make Nigeria better.
It is also beneficial to participants but this post is not about me so I will elaborate in my next post. It takes only 3minutes of your time and the prayers are just the second stanza of the national anthem and the pledge plus a prayer he calls the Gemstone Creed(I maybe wrong) but the prayer makes sense.
If you want to be part of this initiative, follow Fela Durotoye on Periscope see you @ 6pm tonight!