Friday, 11 December 2015 Part 1

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So I saw a couple of teenagers buying weed/drug from a supplier today on my way to lunch.
I literally froze and stood staring at them. I was speechless and absolutely unhappy.
I felt like disrupting the whole show with *koboko but of course I remembered where I was and readjusted to my environment immediately.
The boys are within my nephew's age range! I am so sure of that; yet they had the effrontery to be buying weed in front of me! Now I understand how this boys stab each other with no conscience. Of course if you've taken a mind altering substance like weed or whatever the heck they were buying your conscience is subdued and temporarily buried!
These youths are exposed to unnecessary hazards. Guess it's part of youthful exuberance. But seriously our society needs help!!!
Speaking of youths, I'm off to call my nephew.

Monday, 7 December 2015

Who Owns The Mums That Fly At Night???

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So again I ask who owns the mothers that fly at night?
The wicked mother-in-laws, the ones who maltreat househelps, the conniving ones who make the devil look like a saint?
Well I'm just wondering out loud...heeheehee
Someone put a post up about his mum being the best mum in the whole wide world...So I thought to myself; interesting!
I've never really seen a bad post dedicated to any mum. So I've rationalised it in my mind... she may be a witch and a demon to others but to you... she's golden!
That's how strong the bond between a mother and child is!

Saturday, 13 June 2015

My Current State Of Mind

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Dear God,

I had a conversation with my friend about how people just go crazy and behave badly after a tragic situation as a coping mechanism for the trauma they experienced and I was of the opinion that it is all about choice. They chose to react that way, it does not excuse their bad behaviour but it sure explains it.
We talked about the pros of having a great support system who will be there to speak life to your dead situation and we both agreed on the importance of good people around.
What we didn't talk about was a situation where you really don't feel like sharing what and how you're feeling with your support system, not because you'll be judged plus there's nothing to judge anyways but because you're so angry, frustrated, tired, drained and mad that you can't put all those feelings into words without sounding like an ungrateful wretch because if there's anything you've been, it is Faithful dear Lord.
But Lord today, I'm not feeling that logical. I am not in the state of mind to behave like all is well when it isn 't. Lord you and I know what I'm talking about. I really want to lash out and behave badly like there's no God but I know there's a God who reigns in the affairs of men.
This is the point where I say my words are coming back to haunt me because again, it is a matter of choice...If I decide to behave badly, it is a matter of choice. But by your grace I won't because You first loved me and it's too late to turn back now.
You see my heart, please come through for me.

Your very angry daughter.

I'm hoping I'll come back here and laugh at this some months later but right now and right here, I am super-upset and only God can sort this one out.

If you're feeling that way, please choose to stay sane. It's the best you can do for you at this point in time.

Thursday, 30 April 2015

Z- Zap The Negativity!!! End of "A to Z Challenge"... Whoop Whoop!!!

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YAY!!! I made it... I ran, I walked, I crawled, I flew and I even tried jumping but I made ittt!
And for my last post, I will be zapping the negativity and welcoming all the positives to usher me into the new month of May!!!
I'm going to be thankful for at least three things every day in May and I'm going to live in the moment and enjoy doing that completely. I'm not going to worry about my account not being fat and shapeless and I will just appreciate its skinny shape for now:)
I'm going to praise my way to breakthrough and I'm going to ensure I laugh genuinely daily.
No I'm not necessarily going to put up posts about this but I sure will share from time to time.
When or if negative people come my way in the Month of May, I'm going to ensure they leave feeling awesome and positive; and I'm going to ensure I make a difference in someone's life daily by at least making them laugh!
I will do my best to train myself to be more disciplined, neater, cook more often, invite people over for dinner a lot more (food tastes nicer with good friends).
I'm just going to have a fantastic Month 5 and everyday must pay homage to my goal in life. I'm going to connect with the heavens in a way I've never done before, I'm not going to wait for church on Sundays before I get my praise on and in the event that I am so heavy laden that I can't see beyond my nose, I'm going to call unto God for divine reinforcement! So help me God.
I'm glad we made it to April 30th... there's so much to be thankful and I'm unashamedly giving thanks right here, right now for a fantastic 30days.
Looking forward to a marvelous 31days of grace, favour and all things good.
Bring it on May, I'm ready for you... I'm all prayed up, praised up and ready for my blessings!

Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Yang To My Yin

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Basically, I've always wondered about the description of Yin and Yang... well not really until now.
See I was trying to write something really cool about someone being the Yin to my Yang(I'm pretty sure I've heard it in a song before) then I checked the meaning and I decided that whoever explained it or who ever coined the word Yin & Yang is a chauvinist!(It's okay to laugh, it's not that serious").
So according to,  Yin and Yang:

two complementary principles of Chinese philosophy: Yin is negative,dark, and feminine, Yang positive, bright, and masculine. Their interaction is thought to maintain the harmony of the universe and to influence everything within it.

But my question is why is the negative and dark associated with the feminine and the positive and bright with masculine?

Well I would really want to know!

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Xray Your Life And Tell Me What You See

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To be honest this is one of the most difficult things to do. To look at myself and my life critically and actually take stock of my actions and reactions. 
Where I'm at, my motives for all I've done, analyse it all and check for adverse variances and deficits. Up my game in areas that needs improvement and actually pat myself on the back for where I fared well.
It is easier said than done plus seriously it will be easier to get a shrink lol!
how do you even xray/audit your life? If you're reading this and you've done that before, please kindly send pointers my way. Thank you!

Monday, 27 April 2015

Walking Dead

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My question is why die before you die?
Why should you live in fear of what can be when it hasn't even happened? Why choose to live life in another's shadow when you're meant to shine so bright that we need shades!
Why have you chosen not to live at optimum(In other news, I think optimum is my new favourite word as I think I've managed to use it in 2-3 consecutive posts!lol).
Don't let anything turn you to a walking dead; a shadow of your former self... tell whatever it is and tell yourself you only live once(YOLO baby!!!) and even if you must exit, you will go with a bang!
Life happens I know and I also know it can be overwhelming, but whatever it is, here is me sending you a massive hug and whispering in your ears live a little, don't let anything or anyone kill you before your time.

Saturday, 25 April 2015

V for Vulnerable You

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Defined as:

capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon:
a vulnerable part of the body.
open to moral attack, criticism, temptation, etc.:
an argument vulnerable to refutation; He is vulnerable to bribery.
(of a place) open to assault; difficult to defend:
a vulnerable bridge.

The good book says to guard our hearts with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life.
How vulnerable are you to attacks, wound, hurts, criticism, temptations and all the works?
The truth is we can never protect ourselves enough from all these because one way or the other, we get hurt or wounded etc, it is part of the growing pains... part of life.
It hurts most when it is from people you call close family, friends or associates. Does this mean we should stop loving and caring for people? I don't think so. Actually in my opinion, some protect themselves from all this elements because they don't want to get hurt that they miss out on life and just coast through.
Not so for you or me... A part in the goodbook also says allow yourself to be cheated...well within the household of faith. Yes cheated! ie You don't have to prove that you're right all the time. There comes a point where you just have to L-I-G and let some things slide, it isn't because you don't know your right or you don't have a "come back" of your own, but the worth of that friendship, relationship or business is greater than your wanting to be right. This does not mean you should be stupid!
Don't let the fear of being hurt stop you from living life abundantly.

Friday, 24 April 2015

Understanding You

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Take time out to get you. To know who you are and what your core values are so you won't be swayed by fads because year in and year out, fads come and go.
find out what you're gifted to do and what you're really called to do. That way you can add value to lives.
Don't create instability for yourself and others. It is important to be grounded. Deal with your lack of self believe, deal with your brokenness, you're not at your optimum when all these issues aren't dealt with. 
Accept you for who you are.

Thursday, 23 April 2015


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Humans are bound to fail so don't blame me for not trusting any including myself. Some have asked me if I trusted them and I always came up with the same response consistently... I say I trust the God in you... then to soften the blow, I let them know it isn't about them. I mean I only trust the God in me So pray tell why should I trust you. And my reason is simple, whether we like to admit it or not, we are all flawed and the truth is it takes grace to stay on the path of the straight and narrow. 
Truth is in the right atmospheric condition for misbehaving we really don't know what we are capable of, let's just say only Grace and keeping within the boundaries God has set for us is keeping most of us. so please pretty please don't tell me you trust yourself. I know people that came back to say stuff like "Nolimit I couldn't believe that was me" ie right after messing up big time that is"... don't put so much "trust" pressure on yourself. Just trust the God in you and admit that you're human and thus fallible and prone to mess up.
Don't get me wrong, this does not mean I've lost faith in humanity because there are amazing people doing amazing things out there. And this is not cynicism, this is accepting my state(and your state) of imperfection for what it is.
So to that friend who felt embarrassed when I said I don't trust her, sweetie it wasn't personal, it is what it is, I trust the God in you but I don't trust you. I think I need to find another diplomatic way of responding to this question. Why do people even ask anyways. Like who wakes up and asks "Do you trust me"? honey just do you and stop asking questions you don't want answered!lol.

Wednesday, 22 April 2015

Spirituality - To Be Or Not To Be

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If you're from Africa(at least my side of town) you probably may have heard all kinds of stories about people turning to birds, cats etc. There was a time I thought those stories were a bit exaggerated and just lacked substance. But as I grew older, I realised hmmm maybe just maybe there's a possibility the spiritual side of things does exist and as I grew to know God, I realised we are spirit beings, with souls living in a body; you can't separate the three whilst you have breath. It is almost like the egg, you have the yolk, the albumen and the shell and together they make up the egg.
I believe the spiritual affects the physical and things happen first in the spiritual before they even begin to take place in the physical and we've been given authority to speak God's word into existence but the truth is we hardly make use of this golden opportunity not because we don't want to, but because life happens to the best of us. I can't count the number of times I've wanted to pray and my brain just wants to snooze, so I give in to the "voice of reason" that says I am tired and I need another 15mins that suddenly turns to 45mins with no time to really pray(shame on me).
It is important to nurture all three parts of you. Whilst some find the right balance, some starve one for the other two or 2 for one or all at the same time. I'm hoping I find the right balance for me by being able to connect to God through prayers, meditation and reading God's words, nourish my soul by stimulating my intellect with great books etc and eating right and exercising regularly( okay let's drop the right out of "eating right"... let's just leave it at eating!!!)lol.
Anyways let me know what you think about your spirituality and how you find the balance.

Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Romance... what does that even mean???

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So Nolimit are you romantic he asked. I was like you mean the chocolate, flowers and cakes romance or the poetic ones where you keep writing sweet cheesy meaningless poems? lol even I had to laugh at that.
Well maybe the romantic ones in the blogosphere can help out; My question today is what does it mean to be romantic? do you think it is relative? For instance, giving flowers as gifts to some women is considered romantic, whilst other women will flog you with that same flower and tell you how your mates are buying beautiful diamond necklaces for their loved ones(I won't even mention what part of the world this is likely to happen, we are just going to generally assume it happens everywhere).
And what do men consider romantic cos in my opinion being romantic is so one-sided. Is it a bad thing to not be romantic or do we all have it in us? As you may have guessed, this is another "Wondering Out Loud" post. lol

Monday, 20 April 2015

Quiet Meditation

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I bet you think I'm about to put up some words of wisdom on the aforementioned topic... sorry but I'm also searching for answers and hoping I can use this medium to really make inquiries about this.
I know meditation is an ancient art that helps to quieten the body or something related. I have friends who do yoga and say it is some phone of meditation but frankly speaking, I'm really not interested in yoga, I'm keen to understand how Christians meditate, I mean the biblical setting yourself apart and thinking about a bible verse or how is it done anyways?
My question is, what does meditation mean to you and how do you carry out this act of meditation.
There's a story behind this, I went to a catholic church somewhere off Brompton road with a friend of mine. When we got there, they were observing their quiet time or something that looked like it. You could literally hear a pin drop in the room, it was weird to me but then it was calming, I could hear myself think but it was unsettling too.
I said unsettling because I'm Pentecostal and we're known for singing and dancing out loud (lol) there's nothing quiet about Pentecostal, to now discover this new art, that is quiet yet so powerful...I wanted to understand it. 
I hear it is good to be still for at least 10 minutes a day. Why is this not mentioned in the pulpits? Okay I'm going to be quiet 'cos I'm getting super-random.

Saturday, 18 April 2015

P is for Packaging!!!lol Aka Branding!

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A comedian once said the difference between plantain chips and "Ipekere" is packaging, what that loosely translates to is " You're addressed the way you present yourself".
So try looking like a riffraff and low and behold, you will be identified as one and they'll come pouring out of the woods simply because you're a riffraff magnet!lol Well I kind of partly disagree with it but another part of me understands this "packaging" also known as branding!
It isn't a bad thing to portray yourself the way you would want to be addressed which some call faking it till you make it!(Hmmm). But what I find completely annoying is people who aren't worth their weight in platinum. You can't behave like a flip-flop and honestly expect to be treated like loubiton! Nope that can't work. At least upgrade your intellect gradually to where you really want to be.
No matter how well you brand your outer-self/physical appearance etc, your inner branding is your ultimate packaging!

Ps: Plantain chips is called "ipekere" in yoruba language.

Friday, 17 April 2015

Only The Truth Can Set Free

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I was going to blog about Oscar deserving performances of fake people, but I thought it was too much energy to burn on people that don't exactly matter. 
The truth about your identity will set you free from trying to be like others at all cost; you will be able to appreciate who you are, warts and all and this is a form of growth at least inward growth but the good thing about growing within is, you cant grow within without the outside catching up. So I say pay attention to who you are and who your maker says you are because therein lies your true identity; the truth that will set you free.

Thursday, 16 April 2015

No Distance In The Realm of The Spirit

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Don't know why I decided to choose a topic like this but I did and I'm just going to talk a teeny weeny bit about it.
Heard about the story of a guy that left an African country to study in America, after graduating, he got a great job in America and decided to stay back for a while. He went to Africa on holiday and got lots of presents for everyone, he gave his grandma some money(tidy amount the story goes) and gave his mother double of what he gave grandma.
Grandma then calls him to her room privately and accused him of under estimating her. Dude thought he could just talk his way out of it till grandma brought out a pot under her bed, recited some incantations and the next thing that appeared in the pot was the guy's house/home in America. heard that almost ran him mad but for God!!!
People always think they can shut down and run away from one particular location and even do a change of name just to run away from an issue, sin, family problem acting like a plague etc. but apparently, there's no distance in the realm of the spirit and only Jesus can save... this is my truth.

Wednesday, 15 April 2015

My Motherland Naija!

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I love my country and that is not just in words! Sometimes I wonder if things will ever get better but recent events and occurrence has shown me the power we wield as a nation when we are united as one against any opposition, I'm hoping this change will gain momentum and stay consistent!!!.
On that note. I would love to share this Tedx video about overcoming the fear of vested interest by Lamido Sanusi.
Every foe can be vanquished no doubt about it.

Tuesday, 14 April 2015

Loss - The pain and dealing with it.

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Was busy deliberating on what to have for dinner(super late dinner) when my phone started ringing off the hook... I decided whoever was on the other end will have to wait because this girl can't even have a meaningful conversation in her hungry state. Checked and saw it was one of my good friends; I sighed inwardly and thought what now? 
She calls me like 8 times in a day(I'm exaggerating) to tell me the most random things ever!lol. Anyways I called back and what she told me almost made me pass out. She had just lost a parent! I was in shock! The parent had just commented on my friend's facebook page a day before! How does this things happen? No warning, no signal ... nothing!!!
Don't know if it was the shock that made me tell her I was coming over that night...but I did and the minute I dropped the phone and checked the time, it was some minutes to midnight *sigh* I beat myself inwardly for making such a promise, I was knackered... but then I remembered how I felt when I lost my mother and that helped the adrenaline to kick in fast, so I went to see her! 
When I lost my mum, I just wanted to be out of my skin and take a long walk to neverland and wake up from the horror called my reality at that point in time. I was away from home and called the one friend I thought would be there for me. I just needed to talk to someone about neutral things, crack jokes with me and take my mind off my current situation but she wasn't there, not because she couldn't be(yes it may have been a bit of an inconvenience but dayumn! I would love to think I'm worth it like loreal!lol). Anyways I got through it, forgave my friend, even forgot the whole episode till this happened. So in a way I'm thankful because I know how it feels when you've just lost a loved one. I digress, so I went to my friend's, talked through the night with her, chatted about the most random stuff to take her mind off her current situation.
Sometimes, a crying shoulder is all that's needed and sometimes it is just someone that will be there to take your mind off the loss albeit temporarily but at least for that moment in time, your imagination isn't flying all over the place thinking of what could have been or what wasn't!
What I've also come to learn and understand about losing a loved one is that life has to go on. Understand this person has just closed his/her last chapter and is definitely in a better place and if the only way your heart can take it is to imagine they've journeyed to a far away place, then by all means go for it! 
Also know that people may bear with you and be compassionate for a period, but after a while, you're expected to pick yourself up, dust the cobwebs off and jump back into the boxing ring of life!
And don't let anybody fool you, the pain never leaves and time is not a healer in this case... in my opinion, Jesus is! time just helps to numb the pain and by so doing, you can live with it

Kinetic Energy - A to Z Challenge 2015

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I remember my physics class back in the days and how the physics teacher was so thorough with his explanation of kinetic and potential energy. So what is kinetic energy?
According to "wiki", it is the energy a body possesses by virtue of being in motion. 
Let me break it down the way I understand it.
When I sit my behind down and do nothing, I retain and have potential energy, this means that I have the tendency to really do something but as long as I'm seated, I'm just a potential.
In order to gain energy whilst in motion, I need to "do something"; Kinetic energy is an action energy. 
So ladies and gentle men, enough of the potential quality/energy, allow it to be transformed to kinetic energy.
 I suggest you dust yourself up and get moving!

PS: I was half asleep when I typed this, may come back to update but ~I hope you truly understand that you need to get up and do something!

Saturday, 11 April 2015

Judge Not ... Viewing It Through Another Lens A to Z Challenge 2015

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It is so easy to point the accusing finger, to label orders with tags we can't stand to use on our own selves. IT is so easy to analyse and confer solutions to other people's problems even though we've never walked in the shoes for a second!
Why we do it beats me, but we do anyways. We just keep dishing it till we have nothing left to dish.
Really have more to say on this... but I'm just going to put this out there for now :)

PS: I Love You.

Friday, 10 April 2015

Ice -Queen A to Z Challenge

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Ice-queen why do you pretend so? Every one thinks you're so mean and butter won't melt in your mouth. But hang on a sec, didn't I see you crying in the toilet because that lady lost her child; see you have a soul!? It is okay to let your guards down ice-queen cos people don't bite, for real they don't.
When the woman offered you food the other day, she did because she was being hospitable and I know you were starving cos you hadn't eaten all day. I bet you can't remember the last time you had a decent meal like that yet you kept your ice-cool front. It is okay to accept help from others ice-queen and it is okay to smile too.
Sometimes I wonder who or what turned you to this. I know there's a soul in there. This is not who you're meant to be, whoever is hiding in there needs to be unleashed asap... that's the real you and she's way friendlier and genuine than this front.
I hope someday soon, you'll really see yourself the way you truly are and hopefully, you put the front off and really enjoy people. Till then Ice-queen, melt quickly.

Thursday, 9 April 2015

How To Stay Sane In The Midst Of Crisis A to Z Challenge 2015

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Crisis is part of life and at some point in our various lives, we probably would, must have encountered it. Some may just be coming out of one, some may be in one as we speak/read and some may just be about to enter into it. Guess the point I'm 
trying to stress is that, life happens and how we deal with it and our comportment during this period of crisis determines the outcome a lot!
So how do I stay sane when everything seems like it is crumbling!
Personally in that kind of situation, I ask myself, what is the lesson in this crisis, seriously, just take a step back from the madness and think about what can or must be learnt from it, otherwise I'm afraid you may have to repeat the class.
I also remind myself of the fact that it could be worse than this. Yep it sure can be worse, there is always something to be thankful for. ALWAYS and focus on that particular thing you're thankful for in that situation.
Know and understand that just because you're going through a bad situation doesn't give you an excuse have a bad attitude or behaviour. Whilst your friends and close family members may bear with your grinch behaviour, outsiders or even those who maybe in a position to help you won't or may not be that understanding. So behave yourself.
Be thankful for the miracles in other people's lives. Whilst it is human to be envious, you should and must kill envy with thankfulness. As someone I respect always says, don't kill your brother, kill envy! Understand that the fact that only one light-bulb (the other person's miracle/breakthrough) is working in a house signifies there's power in the house you only need to connect to the source of that power to get yours... so stay connected and don't be bitter.
This too shall pass be calm.

Wednesday, 8 April 2015

Get Lost - A to Z Challenge

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If there was a "GET LOST" card some people deserve it in this life!
For real y'all I'm not even playing. And if there's anyone that is so deserving of this card the most, it will be our common enemy; the devil lol did you actually think I was going to mention a name O_O(PS:I actually used a capital D but I changed it to a small "d" cos the enemy doesn't even deserve that kinda respect! sheesh)! Well the devil is our common enemy and the fact that you're a human being automatically makes you an enemy! The enemy will use any and everything to pull you down ie people, things, places whatever! 
But truth be told some people in our lives too deserve the GL card and I've been known to serve people this card without any hard feelings, it doesn't mean you're my enemy it just simply means that I wish you well but I can't deal with your negative energy. If I'm being honest with myself, I deserve the GL card myself sometimes... temporarily that is!
Here is an honest list of the types or behaviour of people I may have served the GL card in the past (and in the future if care is not taken).

1. People who always see the cup half empty! I don't have it all figured out and as a matter of fact, no one does so I'm not expecting perfection from anyone or any quarter but when all you see is doom and gloom, I'll rather have you see it alone... don't include me in that drama.

2. People who can't keep confidential things CONFIDENTIAL! I don't give people the chance to mess me up twice on this matter! Never... If I tell you something in confidence and the next thing is I see it on the WWW... then that's it, you won't be hearing a word from me forever! We can still roll together and chill together, but I'm never telling you anything of great importance to me anymore. Unless of course there's a life and death reason why you had to share this info with other people.

3. People who are always right in their own eyes... this is where I come in! Gosh I can't count the number of excuses I've made for my many mess ups in the past, there's always a genuine reason from me! SMH! But most times when I see things through the other person's eyes, I own it; warts and all. Now the truth is even criminals always have excuses for committing crimes, it's human nature. But when your mistakes have been outlined in black and white to you yet you still want to keep forming "It isn't my fault", "blame it on my mother", "my past caused it", "It is the devil", "I didn't have a father figure growing up", "Don't judge me" and other excuses like that, I tend to serve the GL card straight up.

4. Unappreciative and unthankful people! Oi we're all hustlers in this game so when you get whatever, know that it isn't your right and frigging say thank you! I can't deal! Just stay thankful and stay humble.

5. Proud people: I think 4 and 5 are connected. Proud people give me rashes! Goodness who the heck do you think you are. when you think the sun shines through your anus, I have an issue and you'll be getting a big fat GET LOST AND GET FAR AWAY FROM ME card!lol. Not that you'll notice or it matters to you, but you'll still get it anyways!

6. When people act so fake and lie through their teeth even when they don't need to, it means I can't trust you and honestly if I can't trust you to a certain degree, there's no point rolling or chilling with you so... GET LOST! come to think of it, it's been ages since I met people like this. I guess my personality doesn't help at all in this matter. If you're fake you won't even like me cos I will call you out on your "fakery"! I may not call you out in publicl but you will know that I know that you're doing a bad job! 

I'm pretty sure I have a long list but I'll stop here... what attitude or behaviour will make you serve the GET LOST(GL) card???

Tuesday, 7 April 2015

F - Flight Stupidity - A to Z Challenge

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My life in movie would be highly dramatic and filled with  great humour!lol Yeah all kinds of drama... think about it.
Let me tell you about the craziest, stupidest(let me own that word), most frustrating thing that has ever happened to me... to date!
So there I was preparing for this travel to meet my family and friends. As you can imagine, I was super-excited and buzzing all over! I had planned for the parties, the outings, the dinners, lunch, fun, meet ups, chillaxing at the beach... I had it all covered to the T! As a matter fact I packed backwards i.e from my last day to the first day I touched down lol! 
I'm sure God must have been laughing at me in heaven thinking look at this "yeye" girl... packing and getting ready without putting the most important thing into consideration(don't worry, keep reading you'll know what it is in a minute!lol).
So I was fully charged and raring to go. I had booked my cab to the airport a night before and had a checklist of things to do before I left the house. Everything was fine and dandy till I got to the airport.
A friend of mine was on the same flight with me and we had planned to sit together for the duration of the flight. I was pretty much looking forward to this. As the cab driver dropped me at the airport, I suddenly realised I left my passport at home!!! MY PASSPORT... that tiny booklet that looked so unimportant but is actually the most important thing to pack for the journey.
I have never felt so stupid in my life... I was soooo frustrated and sooo sad, you can't begin to imagine.
I've heard it happen to people and I was always the one saying stuff like "how can you be so stupid", who the heck forgets their passport at home!... well on that faithful night, I got my response!
As you may have guessed I couldn't board that flight as my passport didn't get to me on time but I learnt a lesson... or two.
Sometimes the tiniest bit is the most important bit... it won't have really mattered if I didn't take some shoes along with me for this journey but that passport as tiny as it looked, as unimportant as it looked was my ticket out of the location I was at that point in time. 
What is that important thing you've exempted that is actually the ticket out of your current situation? People say don't sweat the small stuff and I totally agree but some small stuff are paramount to your existence.

Monday, 6 April 2015

If You Said It, Own It and Take Responbisility For Your Action - Lagos Yawa

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That was what went through my mind when I heard Oba Akiolu threatened the Igbo leaders in Lagos.
Yes that's the adult thing to do. And that shows maturity after-all no one is perfect and nobody expects you to be.
I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired of our leaders treating us like fools.
Woke up to this story on my timeline that the Oba of Lagos threatened the Igbo community in Lagos and my first thought was haba, that's an honourable educated man, an elder in the land; he would never say such.
Well I was in for a shock as an audio link on soundcloud ensued. I almost passed out. I even had a convo with a relative who knows a lot about "this things" on it and the said person told me not to believe that ridiculous thing that the Oba would never say such and it is propaganda by APC bladdybladdybla well I was convinced as there's a youtube video at Alibaba's Jan1st concert of an interview with the outgoing 1st Lady. Now when I listened to that interview without the video, I was so sure it was the first lady but out came the video and low and behold, it was a man mimicking Dame Goodluck. So I willed it to be the case in this particular matter.
I hadn't even dropped the phone for 10minutes when the video popped up on my timeline, apparently HE SAID IT! Unless that video was "photoshopped" too as many people would want us to believe including my relative!
To say I'm disappointed is putting it lightly. It isn't even about what the Oba said but it is about what he hasn't done!
Come onnnnn we all make mistakes and when you make a mistake, you should really do what's right as an adult and a respected one at that.
All sorts of official statements have been flying out of the palace denouncing what he said I guess they didn't think the video was somewhere in the WWW.
This is not about any political party it is about doing what is right! He needs to apologise to the parties involved. It is time for our leaders to realise that technology has made the world more transparent than they can imagine. 
Sir if you said it, you should really come clean and admit that you made a mistake and apologise sincerely, let's move on from there. You may be the king but you're first human and regardless of what Yoruba mythology will have us believe, you're not god.
Every life matters in Nigeria, every life matters in Lagos, it is time to drop all this tribalistic nonsense, we are all one and we can only forge ahead as such!

Embarrassing Moments - A to Z Challenge

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Have you ever been in situations where you literally want to enter the ground and disappear?
Well I have... loads of time but I'm just going to share one!
So I was at this wedding all dolled up and looking seriously hot (I kid you not, even I checked me out in the mirror several times!lol).
Whilst we were singing one of the hymns at the church service, out comes this "evil sneeze" that destroyed my rep(temporarily). So I sneezed and let one rip about the same time. Oooh the horror! O_O, I was so embarrassed  probably turned beetroot red!
A friend that sat beside me said she didn't hear anything, she probably said it to make me feel better; whatever!lol I chose to believe her. 
I was back to normal some minutes later after reminding myself of how natural it was to pop(but another part said but not in I silenced that part sharpishly!).
What's your experience of an embarrassing moment? Pray share!lol

Saturday, 4 April 2015

The D-Word Divorce

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I hung out with an old school mate and asked about some of our mutual friends I haven't been in touch with for a while and discovered that some of them were divorced. I was saddened by this news as I am a firm believer in "till death do us part". At what point does love turn so sour that couples can't even bear to be in the same location? To be honest, I just don't get it.
My friend said things were better in the days of our parents, grand parents and great grand parents but I was swift to disagree with her. It wasn't any better, the women just had little or no choice than to stay in that marriage for survival. But now, women have more choices and staying in a marriage no matter how good or bad is totally by choice and not by least in most cases.
I don't like divorce, but I don't see any reason to knock the divorcee and neither should you.
Because truth be told, you really don't know what your reaction would be if you were in the same situation as the divorced so best bet is to empathize with them and be compassionate. No one walks down the aisle with the plan to break it off after a certain period (I may be wrong; as some do it for the purpose of immigration but for this post, I'm talking about two people in love with each other, walking down the aisle).
Some believe that marriage should be dissolved once cases of infidelity starts creeping in, do you agree with this or do you believe in forgiveness and second chances?

Friday, 3 April 2015

Can I Be Real With You?

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This is your life... don't let anybody fool you the truth doesn't get any realer (am I allowed to say that?).
We often tend to either live in the past(because we can't face our current realities story for another day) or live in the future(because we can't face our current realities). Well I'll have you know that today is the tomorrow you longed for yesterday so "carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero" meaning "Seize the day, put very little trust in tomorrow (the future)".
Live a lot today, stop worrying about what hasn't been, because your worrying can't fix it anyways. Don't wait till all is perfect before you really live! Buy that house, Travel to that country, give to that charity, take that course, there's never going to be a perfect time to do whatever the heck you need to do.
You just have to do it! When we keep waiting for that elusive perfect timing/situation, we never get anything done, hence the reason we procrastinate like no man's business. Don't be reckless but live a little surely this two are not mutually exclusive ie "Living" and being "Reckless"(Mathematicians in the house did I get that right?). By all means plan but take a chance when you need to, sometimes being impulsive is good and sometimes it isn't, who says you won't be burnt sometimes? You will be burnt occasionally but that is part of living, lick your wounds, dust it off, get up and keep it moving!
What have you been putting on hold for a "perfect timing"?

Thursday, 2 April 2015

B - Birthdays

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I've decided to be as random as I can be for this challenge! So I may put up a post on a funny experience and suddenly decide to post on something really serious. Well I just had to put that out there.

Growing up, mum was big on celebrating birthdays; you just know that you're the queen for 24hours though you still weren't exempted from your regular morning chores it came with the "Queen of the day package".

Fastforward to many moons later and I realise I've almost lost that attitude to celebrate my birthday... "almost" I said. I still celebrate, actually I think my birthday should be a public holiday at least in "NoLimit Kingdom", it is. But I've lost all that birthday celebration spirit(almost)... I decided to kickstart for my birthday this year and was already planning in my head to tell invite some friends over for a little shindig... the though of the logistics, people coming over to mine, the noise(I may or may not love it), thought of ordering and cooking food and just generally clearing up stopped me in my tracks. I know know I know... I should still have gone ahead, hopefully, next year will be better!
So how do you celebrate birthdays?

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

A For Abortion - A to Z Challenge

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I decided to take on the A to Z challenge and I can't stop asking myself what I was thinking to make me sign up at that point in time.
Today, A is for Abortion... According to the oxford dictionary,
it is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28weeks.
I read an inspiring story about a woman who wanted to abort a pregnancy because she just couldn't cope as she had other children and she had just recently broken up with the father of her unborn child.
She actually got to the abortion clinic but changed her mind... couple of years or less later, that child became her channel to unprecedented blessings; her link to open doors, I think you should read it yourself and be truly inspired!
What do you think about abortion? are you pro-life or pro-choice? share your thoughts.

Here is what she said:

Two years ago today I was sitting in an abortion clinic thinking not having Vaida was best for me.
People remember dates for birthdays, and anniversaries. Well this date is forever burned in my brain. It's a day that I will remember and I remember every single detail of that day. I think that is Gods way of showing me that HIS plan is and will always be greater and bigger than anything and everyth
ing I've ever known.
I sat in the abortion clinic for nearly 7 hours. I remember wearing a pink t shirt that was soaking wet from crying. Below is my post from that day and I remember crying the entire time I was writing it. I hope that by sharing this that it touches someone.

"Today I was at the abortion clinic. I had my mind made up. My boyfriend was cheating on me. I have small kids, what will people think?? I kept telling myself I'm all alone I need to do this. Sitting there.. I could hardly make out anyone or anything through the tears. People were eating fast food around me, laughing, texting. I on the other hand was a wreck. I kept my face down, my face was drenched in tears. I kept telling and giving myself every reason to go through with this even though I did not believe in it. I kept saying I'm on birth control this could not happen..I kept trying to justify it. But my heart was heavy. I felt like I was about to make a horrible horrible decision and God was giving me signs to not do it.. I woke up this morning, my daughter was sick I had to find a sitter, I got lost, my car broke down for about 15 mins and I got here late but they still got me in. I prayed God would stop and give me a sign, give me the strength to get up and walk out of here..
The lady called me to the desk. Last step before you go back. I fumbled through my wallet to find my drivers license and out fell a card a couple left on the table Saturday night when I was working... It had their church name on it.. On the back was a common verse...

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand." Isaiah 41:10
I knew God was speaking to me.

Two of my best friends called me just in time and said the most comforting things. "I will be there for you..There's a reason God gave you that gift."

I told the lady I changed my mind. As I was about to walk out. A young girl no older than probably 19 says to me.."Are you going to do it?" I told her I couldn't.. She said.."I wish I could be brave like you.." I told her she was brave and she could do the same thing. She said she had to do it because of some serious circumstances.. As I turned around she said.."When you see your baby's face for the first time you're gonna be so glad you walked out of here today."

Pouring tears I walked out and felt a huge weight off my shoulders. No matter what your circumstances are God doesn't make mistakes and he is here for you.

This is my testimony. If you have any negative comments you can refrain from making them here. I will let it be known that I do not care what people think. Hence this post. My friends and family mean the world to me. And have my back 100%. Even if I have to do this by myself. I thank God everyday for them. "

Most of all I remember the enormous amount of relief and strength I felt when I walked out those doors. No guilt. No shame. No regrets. I remember feeling that this all... This all has to mean something one day. My daughter Vaida Everly has a purpose. Her name means beautiful life. And lord she is just that.. A beautiful life. After a scary pregnancy, and after countless weak moments thinking I just could not do this by myself.. September 12 2013 I welcomed my beautiful Vaida Everly into this world with both my best friends by my side. I remember seeing her for the first time and bursting into tears. And engraved in my head were the words that girl told me before leaving the clinic that day. "When you see your baby's face for the first time you are going to be so happy you walked out of here today.." She was beyond right. 6lbs 4oz of pure perfection and no matter what pain I felt physically and
emotionally... She gave me a feeling of joy that I can't even explain. A kind of joy that if a war was going on outside I wouldn't even know it. I am so in love.
My once tiny 6lb baby is now 18lbs. Full of life. Full of energy. Loves to laugh. Loves to smile.

And last but not least she is that beautiful baby girl I was singing to at midnight in the kitchen. The video that has touched millions of people all over the world. Singing to her in our kitchen for a memory keep sake is the reason our entire life is about to change. For the good. For the better. She was meant to be here. 

I'm so lucky. 


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PPs: Her story is inspiring right???? :)