Re: In The Name of All Things Men.
Was stuck on the train in the middle of no where for a
while...national rail can like to get their acts together!What better time to write/type than then:)
Here are the random thoughts that came to me based on Vera's radio show...but before then, enjoy this track...
Don't blame the men for the lies,blame the women who will swallow any
lie so long as it makes them look good...don't blame the women,blame
the men who put them in that state.
Personally I'm of the opinion that a strong onus is on the woman to
decide not to be stupid...we are nuturing and very kind...a guy will
take you on a ride if he knows he can get away with murder where he's
concerned in your life.
Sometimes we love the idea of being in love than love itself...it isn't about how you feel,if it was about feeling then I should have killed by now.Reminds me of the time my friend asked me "how can something that feels so good be so wrong"...the act is not wrong darling it is the timing that is everything.I totally believe that the truth will prevail...if only we can be patient...that wolf in sheep clothing will eventually reveal his true colour...it's only a matter of time.
Sometimes,the girl knows she's being lied to but wants to enjoy the moment...well enjoy it and ensure you get enough tissue for the heartbreak that will ensue.
To be honest...I have nothing but respect for women that wear their heart on their sleeve...they are very bold and courageous...I wouldn't know what to do with a broken heart,and to be honest I like my heart in one piece!!! Call me a coward if you like,but there's more to life than putting my heart on the slab to be chopped into several pieces... Thanks but no thanks.
Like I said, it's only a matter of time, if we are patient and observant, love will find a way!
Guys should learn to control what is between their legs and not let it
control them...lying to get what you want is an absolute no no and
what it does is; it reduces you gradually.
Having said that, people change, but then, they say a leopard never changes it's spot
Oh well...this is just me rambling...ciao mwah!!!
Since I mentioned "broken heart"...enjoy the track below...home girl can sing!!!
while...national rail can like to get their acts together!What better time to write/type than then:)
Here are the random thoughts that came to me based on Vera's radio show...but before then, enjoy this track...
Don't blame the men for the lies,blame the women who will swallow any
lie so long as it makes them look good...don't blame the women,blame
the men who put them in that state.
Personally I'm of the opinion that a strong onus is on the woman to
decide not to be stupid...we are nuturing and very kind...a guy will
take you on a ride if he knows he can get away with murder where he's
concerned in your life.
Sometimes we love the idea of being in love than love itself...it isn't about how you feel,if it was about feeling then I should have killed by now.Reminds me of the time my friend asked me "how can something that feels so good be so wrong"...the act is not wrong darling it is the timing that is everything.I totally believe that the truth will prevail...if only we can be patient...that wolf in sheep clothing will eventually reveal his true colour...it's only a matter of time.
Sometimes,the girl knows she's being lied to but wants to enjoy the moment...well enjoy it and ensure you get enough tissue for the heartbreak that will ensue.
To be honest...I have nothing but respect for women that wear their heart on their sleeve...they are very bold and courageous...I wouldn't know what to do with a broken heart,and to be honest I like my heart in one piece!!! Call me a coward if you like,but there's more to life than putting my heart on the slab to be chopped into several pieces... Thanks but no thanks.
Like I said, it's only a matter of time, if we are patient and observant, love will find a way!
I know that when it comes to matters of the heart, all a girl needs to do is open up her heart and she gets to that point of no return. Hence the reason a girl needs to be patient enough to confirm that she's not getting herself in the wrong match/mix...cos once you've opened the floodgate of ur heart...it becomes really difficult to control...somethings...call it what you like...
Guys should learn to control what is between their legs and not let it
control them...lying to get what you want is an absolute no no and
what it does is; it reduces you gradually.
Having said that, people change, but then, they say a leopard never changes it's spot
Oh well...this is just me rambling...ciao mwah!!!
Since I mentioned "broken heart"...enjoy the track below...home girl can sing!!!
Comments
These two lines below stand out for me and are so true. We can't control anyone but ourselves. (BTW, I love that Alicia Keys track)
Personally I'm of the opinion that a strong onus is on the woman to
decide not to be stupid...
Sometimes we love the idea of being in love than love itself...
Balance the sides if you must take sensitive topics such as this.
- LDP
I don't think stupidity is a decision.
I also think putting your heart in a glove compartment box just robs you of an enriched life experience.
I don't think men should learn to control whats between their legs. Conversely, I think natural selection should retire "stupid girls"
I agree
@ LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR... Thanks prof…I totally agree the post is one sided,that’s because I’m a woman speaking from a woman’s point of view…I know ladies lie to men…actually I’ll be the first to say that ‘cos I’ve seen it happen…hee hee hee and men have feelings too…yeah I witnessed my friend a dude cry when his silly girlfriend broke up with him…having said that,I honestly may not be qualified to speak for the men folk…so why not take up that challenge and speak from a man’s point of view?:)…actually you can be a guest blogger right here! Deal?
@ Entitled…it’s okay to disagree…that’s why it’s called an opinion…you’re entitled to yours (lol notice the way it matches your name?)
Contrary to what you think, stupidity can be a decision…to the decision maker @ that point in time, it may not be stupid but to onlookers and people who have been there done that and got the badge, it is stupid…heck…what am I saying…when one knows the truth, understands the truth yet refuses to abide by the truth, is that not a decision? Is it not stupid?
Not wearing one’s heart on one’s sleeve or not laying it down on a slab for it to be turned to mince meat does not mean one is being robbed of an enriched life it simply means, the decision maker has refused to become a “statistic”…in the scheme of things, that is an infinitesimal part of an enriched life experience…there’s more to it than meets the eye.
Well I on the other hand think men should control what’s between their legs…it is called being disciplined…and contrary to what you think, there are no stupid girls…only girls that are yet to work the truth.
@ Nutty J…Thanks, you’re very kind!
- LDP
I am also glad you admit, all other things being equal, Miss Heartbroken has "lived" more than Miss My-heart-is-in-a-safety-deposit-box. Whether she's "lived" Infinitesimally more or infinitely more is a judgment call she has exclusive rights to. And BTW, Everyone is a statistic.
By what measure of objective truth is a man obligated to sexual discipline? Why should I aspire to that kind of "discipline?"
nawao
@Le Dynamique Prof…errr what do you think it is? *rolling my eyes round* of ‘cos it is!!! Sigh okay I’ll ask in a formal tone(Note that I hardly do “formal”).
Please sire, could you spare some time out of your very busy schedule to be a guest blogger on mine on a post titled “For the Love of all things women” – The rejoinder.
Many thanks for your much anticipated “positive” response.
NoLimit
From the last paragraph, I assume you’re a guy…again I say you’re entitled to your opinion…I can only say and abide by the truth I know and understand…you don’t have to…you’re not obliged to.
...from your response to LDR's comment, 'tis clear you did not set out to do a 'balanced' post. Rather, you decided what you wanted to write about and from which angle.....fair, very fair.
LDR i believe has just been given a license to 'write' only he doesn't really have the option of choice. Guess he has to write from the other angle.
Now, this brings to mind the subject of the 'Welcome Lagos' documentary aired awhile back, would have thot people should simply have done their own documentary from the 'other' angle.
The other 'angle' being
1. a documentary of the 'good' side of Lagos or
2. a documentary of the 'bad' side of London (guess that is where the guy is from).
The question is, "Is anyone daring enough?"
Yes I am not the fairer sex and I am challenging your "truth" which "abide by ... and understand," because I think it can be shown to be objectively false. Do you want to abide by a lie/falsehood?
Opinions that side with "uncontestable" truths are more than just opinions, because when you opine against them, you are simply embracing dirty lies.
My truth sire comes from the Word of God, The Bible,the Absolute truth,the manual for life…a stumbling block to some while some call it absurd and foolish…but I NoLimit choose to call it what it is….The way to an enriched life which eludes many…I dare you try it out!
Your heart will break. I give it time. It might not be romantic...it might be your child that will break your heart...your siblings...but it will and when it does, there would be someone around that will be there to hold you and they will do a good job and be patient and be kind because they have been there before. :)
Time: the value we place on time is false and its merely an illusion. I can know someones character within an hour of meeting them. Now I might deliberately ignore what I see, hence my very obvious stupidity, but I know...I know that I knew.
Change: people CHANGE all the time. A Man who is happy and kind to his wife, might get hit by a car, suddently he is filled with bitterness. A man who is on fire for God, might fall into sin. Change is a human experience...and we change depending on what we face. Just pray that God helps you deal with your upcoming battles and that he gives you the grace to be graceful through life`s horror. You yourself will change...and you will remember this post, and you will smile.
Faith: you believe in a God...that you dont get to see...which is a brilliant start. An old woman told me a very long time ago, to remember, on my wedding day, that I am marrying the Man that he is now, the Man he will become (change) and the Man he hopes to become. I know the character of who he is now, I might get to hear about the Man he hopes to become and the Man he will become...well...neither of us know...he doesnt even know...but you are married to that one too. So be prepared.
Another clarification. Wearing your heart on your sleeve doesnt mean you fall in love easily or that you fall in love too quickly. You could watch the man for a year or 6...he has shown how great he is...and then you fall in love. Then you wear your heart on your sleeve...meaning you are open with how you feel. Which deepens your love. No one wants to be in love with someone who cant...or refuses to show love back...except a masochist of course...they are people too though...
This is too long.
I have loads more to say...but I must go back to work.
I love you, big sis.
Smoooches.
A bunch of white folks gave your ancestors a book, told them God wrote it and centuries afterward you you choose to be as gullible? They were ignorant. What's your excuse?
"Try it out?" I'm sorry. I don't like lies. Bland or fantastic.
men and sex.
Lieing is a BAD thing. Terrible...but chastity is to me, the sillient virtue. I just cant imagine anything inherently good in denying yourself safe good sex.
Stupid people??? Superior??? Is that your perception???
Sweetie my heart has been broken many times over…losing a loved one is heart breaking…those are heart breaks you have no control over…and trust me when I say time is not exactly a great healer…who ever said that got it wrong…the Balm of Gilead is the only Healer.
And with regards to time being and illusion…I agree with you that you can know someone’s character within an hour of meeting them but don’t underestimate the value of time in revealing stuff to you.
And to: change, faith and the other clarification…I will just say hmmm…deep words right there…I guess the only constant thing in life is change…but then when I put my faith in the Unchanging Changer…I’m rest assured that no matter what comes my way…and trust me when I say you have no idea of what has come my way and what I’m still battling with…
From your comment I deduce you seems to think I have it all figured out! Lol…jokes I DON’T…and I do not pretend to…but with one step @ a time and my trust firmly in God(oh yes I believe in God that I don’t see…but I see His works per second…and I know that I know that He is real…)…trust me all will be well…regardless.
Love you too babes.
PS
The sillient virtue??? What does that mean?
@ Entitled…lol!!! Test and see that the Lord is good!
Thanks for your comments; I’ve learnt a lot…don’t be a stranger.:)
Ultimately, life happens. We make decisions, and eventually, we find out how good or bad they were. No one knows at the beginning whether they made the right decisions or not. How do you even know when a man really loves you anyway??? Things change. People change. Circumstances change. Change is the only constant thing in life. And like Entitled said, everyone is really a statistic --- whether you know it or not.
@Vera...*sigh*!!! this post was written from my point of view at a particular point in time,it is not finite and it is not cast in stone.I still stand by it
And I agree that change happens all the time...we all hope...at least I do hope that when it happens...I will be able to bear it no matter what that change is.
Hmmm true talk... Monkey go go Market one day o...iPonder.
r u on twitter? pls reply on my blog, if you can. thanks :)
- LDP
@Baroque...yay! good to see you back!
He's around o! lol@ Okporoko...e don tey wey hear that kain word!
decide not to be stupid."
And since you mentioned it....COWAAAAARDD!!!!
Lol
Even though I agree with all you said :)
Love is patient and it will come to those that wait.
muah!!