Sometimes it is had to not want to impress...personally speaking, I contend with the pressure to impress in various aspects of my life!!!
Especially with regards to family, the truth is whether you want to admit it or not, there are some people we seek validation and approval from in our lives. for instance, if a random human being tells me I will amount to nothing, I'll just look at the fellow in the eye and tel him he is chatting rubbish! but if a member of my nuclear family says the exact thing to me, I will take it on board and actually, think/wonder why a statement like that was made.
I reckon the reason we all seek approval is because we've been created to be relational beings and there are some people in our circle of relationship who's opinion we hold very dear.
Then there is the pressure to impress people like friends,neighbours etc. because we want to "keep up with the Joneses"...I personally think this is sheer stupidity especially when you're just keeping up the appearance...seriously what's the point? And yes yours truly has fallen into this evil web before...in retrospect, I definitely would have done things differently...I realise now that it is really not worth the trouble...
I know of another kind of pressure to impress and that is very rife in the country I come from...people are so shallow that they appraise you by the car you drive amongst other "tools" used to measure your standard/level or whatever you want to call it!!!
A friend once bought a stupidly expensive car just because he wanted "acceptance" from his business associates...when I asked him if it was worth the trouble, he said look this are people that measure your level of "seriousness" by what you wear...little wonder we have issues with almost everything and anything you can think of.
And yes we've all been the "judge" at some point or the other...at least I have...making snide remarks about people,their cars, houses and what have you! The simple truth is THIS OUGHT NOT TO BE!!!
*Okay I'm feeling sleepy now...but I'll still complete this post!*:-)
Well I'm happy to let you know that it is not so for me most of the time and the times it has happened, I redirect my brain and focus on what really matters...yes I outgrew this approval seeking mode when I discovered I only need One person's approval and if this One person approves of me, then every other individual will have to approve whether they like it or yes!!!
I didn't say it, He said it right here
As if that is not enough, someone said Debt/Stupidity(not sure now) is spending money you don't have to buy things you don't need to impress people you don't like!
So what's the point?