Monday, 18 January 2010

Just Let It Go...

Had a minor clash with a friend of mine...I should have just kept quiet and stepped down/walked away...but me being me refused to listen to the voice of reason...I was like dude bring it on!
...If you bring fire I'll quench it...and if you bring water,I will boil it dry!!! *agbero mode alert*
Anyways we remained kind of aloof...
I honestly hate keeping grudges,I just don't have the capacity to handle it,I won't be able to sleep and honestly my mind won't be settled especially when I know there's indeed an issue to be ironed out.
To be sincere it was just a little joke that turned ugly,I felt he overreacted and in my books that is unfair...you should be able to handle being the butt of a joke especially when you know how to dish it out on others.
I decided to call him up to talk about it...and guess what? It was a stupid breakdown in communication.
Moral of the story...your friend is not the enemy,regardless of the situation...the devil is the enemy(yes I'm blaming the devil...you can sue me if you're it's supporter.lol).
Imagine saying A and all the other person can hear is B...I'm sure glad I got off my high horse to call my friend.
It is funny the way the good book puts it;"This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters. if you enter your place of worship and,about to make an offering,you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you(*Notice it isn't even a grudge you have against your friend* ),abandon your offering,leave immediately,go to this friend and make things right.
Then and only then,come back and work things out with God".
My people no be me talk am,na the big J talk am!
Isn't that really odd/strange?...well I found it weird the first time I read that particular passage...
I'm glad it turned out the way it did,at least we understand each other a little bit better.
Have a good week people and don't hold any grudge for your own peace of mind.
For your own sake,L-I-G(Let It Go)...

16 comments:

Miss FlyHigh - LondonsNaijaQueen said...

This has happened to me before. It's good you came of your high horse luv I hate holding grudges, I have sleepless nights and all manners.

Anyways have a nice week hunny.

ibiluv said...

let it go

nice

Good Naija Girl said...

I'm like you: I hate having unpleasantness between myself and a friend or family member. It's funny, when I know I'm right I'll be outraged that the person has the audacity to be mad at me but once my initial anger cools I'm left with that same unpleasant feeling so resolving things and holding out that olive branch is something I just have to do to feel some peace.

(I didn't say I do it right away though! I like how you pointed out the passage doesn't care who is the cause of the rift!)

I'm glad things are resolved between you and your friend :)

Myne Whitman said...

Let it go, I really like that. Talk about a palliative for unnecessary high BP. I'm glad you sorted things out and thanks for sharing.

Jaycee said...

Grudges are the kind of things that spoil your entire day and proceed to spoiling your joy, vision, goals, etc.

It's just better to iron them out as fast as possible. Good post!

Nice Anon said...

Yes some things aren't worth it. Nice one

seye said...

A good story to end my day(you sef know say that na lie).

Sometimes this can be hard! But I am glad we've been given all it takes. If we have been instructed, then we should have the capabilities to carry them out

Enkay said...

Sometimes sha, I feel like I "let it go" one time too many.
Some people just want to keep walking all over you regardless of who's right or wrong!

Still, I'm one of those who believes in saying "sorry" and getting it over with.

Andrea said...

"Let it go".. I agree with this, but some people use it as an excuse to do whatever they want. Sometimes we need to let some people go....

Rita said...

Sorry oh...

Do you know I never noticed the "it isn't even a grudge you have against your friend"

Writefreak said...

I also can't bear a grudge or stand someone being upset with me...and i have decided to live that scripture and try to iron things out when possible, when it's not, i try and tell God to handle it and let go of any offence i might have..
We really should let it go like you say, it makes for peace of mind...and i'm so glad you obeyed the scripture! So many times when we have unanswered prayers, we need to check for offences!

lamikayty said...

Funny it could have been me writing this post! I'll L-i-G...

NoLimit said...

@Miss FlyHigh...hmmm it sure is good...pride goes before a fall..thanks babes...week has been great so far!

@ibiluv...Thanks a bunch...hope you're good.

@GNG...Seriously it's a bloody waste of energy...there's no point losing sleep over nothing!

@Myne Whitman...I'm glad you like it...hope the book sales is going excellently well...will be getting my copy in a bit yay!!!

@Jaycee@I totally agree with you...thanks for your comment

@Nice Anon...thanks babes...

@Seye...Story?Hard but possible...word!!!

@Enkay...Babes I feel like that too..nevertheless I still sort it out sha...and God gives me the grace to do it...as long as my heart is willing...

@Andrea...lol...now that's another one o!!!Let them go!!!nice one!

@Rita...I honestly didn't know too till I read it one of those days...my eyes nearly popped out of the socket...I actually had to read it in various versions before I finally agreed!lol

@Writefreak...Babes hmmmdeep words right there!!!

@Lamikayty...For real? thanks for the comment I will definitely come visiting your blog in a bit!!!

rethots said...

Nice, very nice.....

Femme Lounge said...

dts the funny thing about grudges. it makes you bitter and weighs you down while the person you are angry with is going on with her own life. good thing you let it out!

Pink Satin said...

i so feel like that when i am bearing a grudge with a close friend.I cant sleep or do anything!Glad you took the initiative to communicate with your friend